The media has never been shy when it comes to the body of a woman.
As if our bodies are their main concern, society has no problem shaming women who do not fit the physical standard American thinks is acceptable. Just ask Kelly Clarkson, Tyra Banks or Miranda Lambert.
Most of the time, this shaming is directed towards women with curves or women who have put on a few pounds. Lately, there has been less shaming, though it still happens every day so I can’t say I’m exactly proud, and women are encouraged to embrace their curves and appreciate their bodies. Thanks to role models like Melissa Mccarthy, Jennifer Lopez and Meghan Trainor, the media is starting to move into a stage of acceptance by showcasing women who have curves, using less photoshop and embracing what women actually look like. Dove, for example, has been a major influence behind this movement.
What about the girls who don’t have curves? Yes, for a long time, and even still, society has placed favor on small women with thigh gaps, hipbones and boobs. They may encourage us to be skinny, and they may encourage us to be curvy, but what if you are just small? What if you don’t have curves to flaunt, big boobs or hips?
People have been so caught up in the shaming of curvaceous women (and for good reason) that they tend to overlook the way small-framed women get treated. Whether you are skinny, curvy, thick, bony or small, no one likes to be picked on for their appearance. Here are five things skinny girls are tired of hearing.
1. Real women have curves.
I’m sorry, but the last time I checked, real women had the female reproductive system. My boobs are not big. I do not have a tiny waist above a bubble butt that resembles Kim K. I do not have a thigh gap that leads to sexy hips. Does that make me less of a woman? No.
I am intelligent, funny, witty, sassy, kind and humorous. I am determined, driven and passionate. I can support myself, fall in love, cut ties with people who are unhealthy and call you out on your bullshit. That is what makes me a woman. For those out there who believe a woman is defined by the size of her boobs or the roundness of her butt, I suggest you take a look at the false social standards you are letting take a hold of you.
2. You look like you’re 12.
I don’t understand what makes people say stuff like this. First of all, your opinion was not asked for. Second of all, it is not valued. Lastly, your opinion on someone’s size doesn’t mean a damn thing. Keep your snide remarks to yourself because you look like an ass.
3. It’s so unfair you can eat whatever you want and not gain a pound.
That is actually not true. I personally have a slow metabolism, so I am choosy about what I eat. If I go out with friends, then yes I am going to eat whatever the hell I want. If I want to eat a bag of chips for dinner because I didn’t have time to grab lunch, then that is my own choice. Just because you see me eat unhealthy sometimes doesn’t mean I eat that way all the time.
People need to stop getting so upset with what everyone else is eating. If you want to have a certain body then work out and eat accordingly. You worry about your body and I will worry about mine. If you want to eat like crap, go ahead. If you want to eat healthy, that’s great. It’s your choice just like it’s my choice and only my concern to eat how I want.
4. You don’t need to go to the gym.
Omg people!! If I want to go to the gym then I will go to the damn gym. Maybe I don’t want to lose weight. Maybe I just want to avoid heart disease. Maybe I want to increase my flexibility. Maybe I want to build my upper body strength. Who cares? You shouldn’t, that’s for sure. The gym is not just a place people go to get skinny. There are a number of health benefits that come from physical activity.
5. Oh, my God, you are so skinny! Have you lost more weight?!
That’s literally equivalent to me saying “oh my God you look so big, have you gained more weight?” It doesn’t sound so nice the other way around, does it? Some people gain weight when they are stressed, but I lose it. When I am going through a hard time I lose my appetite and feel nauseous when I eat. It’s not my fault that my body reacts differently to stress than yours. It’s impolite to bring negative attention to someone else’s body, period. We are all different and that is what makes us beautiful in our own way. Just because someone is smaller, bigger, taller, rounder or shorter does not mean they should be singled out for it. We need to be encouraging each other and empowering each other. Not bashing each other’s bodies. We don’t need any more competition between us. We need unity.